Sara Evans has performing for sold out crowds down to a science these days. She’s also an expert in running her large, blended family with husband Jay Barker. Sara sat down with She Knows recently to discuss a wide range of topics. After going through a very public divorce in 2006, Sara shared her advice to anyone who may be going through a divorce right now.
“I hate it when anybody has to go through that,” she said. “It is a really painful thing and I would say to anyone in the middle of anything like that to just stay calm, take things one day at a time, and not look too far ahead. Eventually it’s going to be okay. Surround yourself with people who love you.”
Marrying Jay Barker in 2008 created a family of seven kids — Sara’s three and Jay’s four, ages 13, 12, 12, 10, 10, 9 and 7. She and Jay share similar traits that help them keep their large family running like clockwork – but she admits she has a little help.
“My personality is really low-key, and so is Jay’s,” she said. “So we don’t get uptight with anything. And I’m not going to lie, we have a lady that comes every single day to help me with laundry, grocery shopping, stuff like that. We just try to stay calm. I’m not one of those uptight, overwhelmed kind of girls.”
That’s not saying it’s always smooth sailing though. With seven kids in the house, there are bound to be a few arguments.
“Jay’s kids fight with each other and my kids fight with each other, but there isn’t a lot of crossover,” she said. “We’re pretty strict parents – we don’t let them fight, we don’t let them talk back to us. We run as tight of a ship as we can. The dynamics of a divorce and blended families are there. My parents divorced when I was 12, so I totally understand what they are going through and what they feel and their struggles, so I try to compensate for those constantly.”
How does Sara stay in such great shape when she’s so busy keeping her family and career in order? She spends time with her dog (a “calorie burner”) and plays tennis, while not depriving herself of the foods she loves.
“I’ve always been an athlete — I play all kinds of sports,” said Sara. “I stay skinny by playing sports, mostly tennis, and I count my calories. I’m a firm believer in calorie counting. I don’t think any food is off limits, but my thing is like, ‘Stop eating so much!’ When I cut back on eating, it works.”
Read Sara’s full interview with She Knows HERE.