Taylor Swift was hand-picked Glamour Editor-In-Chief Cindi Leive to grace the cover of the 75thAnniversary issue of the magazine. On newsstands February 11, Taylor doles out dating advice and shares one of her biggest personal goals. So what does Taylor recommend when a guy needs to step up and show the feelings are mutual? The Freeze-Out.
“You don’t respond to any of his texts or calls until he does something desperate (like) shows up,” she explained of her “freeze-out” approach. “Or he calls and leaves a voice mail. Something that makes it very clear to you that he’s interested.”
Taylor also has advice for those in relationships that are a little complicated, especially when it comes to texting.
“Guarding your heart and protecting your dignity are a little bit more important than clarifying the emotions of someone who’s only texting you back three words,” she said to Glamour. “I’ve learned that from trying to figure out people who don’t deserve to be figured out. When someone seems mysterious, we like to romanticize that he’s ‘deep’ or ‘complicated.’ But a lot of the time, things are exactly as they seem. For a long time I was drawn to—and still am drawn to—people I find very interesting. [But] someone who sits and talks about themselves for an hour, you start to maybe wonder if, rather than trying so hard to be interesting, they could be a little bit more interested.”
Another dating tip from Taylor? Never yell. According to her, silence speaks volumes. And in her case, she can always write a song about it, something she intends to do for a long time to come.
“One of my big goals as a human being is to continue to write what’s really happening to me, even if it’s a tough pill to swallow for people around me,” she said. “I do fear that if I ever were to have someone in my life who mattered, I would second-guess every one of my lyrics.”