Taylor Swift is known for her songs about love – falling in love, out of love, and everything in between. She has also been involved in some high-profile relationships with the likes of Jake Gyllenhaal, John Mayer and Harry Styles. So, when a young fan reached out to her via Instagram for relationship advice, Swift offered her some sage words of wisdom.
“@taylorswift can you give me some advice maybe. I love you,” wrote Hannah, who went on to explain that she was in love with a guy who had a girlfriend and would never like her back. After complimenting Hannah’s eyes, Swift addressed Hannah’s heart.
“About this guy,” she wrote. “I think we grow up thinking the only love that counts as true love is the kind that lasts forever or is fully realized. When you have a broken heart, the first thing a stranger will ask is ‘how long were you two together?’ As if your pain can be determined by how long you were with someone. Or if you were with them at all. I don’t think that’s how it works. I think unrequited love is just as valid as any other kind. It’s just as crushing and just as thrilling.
“No matter what happens in this situation, I want you to remember that what you are doing is selfless and beautiful and kind,” she continued. “You are loving someone purely because you love them, not because you think you’ll ever have your affections reciprocated. You are admiring something for its beauty, without needing to own it. Feel good about being the kind of person who loves selflessly. I think someday you’ll find someone who loves you in that exact same way.”
Hannah replied to Swift’s wise words, writing “You have no idea how much this means to me, thank you. You understand and that means so much. I feel like you’re the big sister I don’t have. Thank you, I really did need to hear that from you.”
Swift recently wrapped her RED Tour with a string of shows in Asia. She is working on her next album, the follow-up to her multi-platinum RED.